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Anchors, Cords, or Portals: What is the energetic impact of your stuff? - Ashley Brothers


Sometimes our “stuff” is just that: stuff. It’s our food, our shelter, our clothing, shoes, art, toys, books, jewelry, nicknacks, and keepsakes. . . .but sometimes our belongings are not so benign. They might start off that way, but somewhere down the line, our belongings may morph into an anchor, a bridge, a cord, a curse, a doorway, or a portal to something, someone, or somewhere else. Read on to discover the possible energetic impact of your stuff.


You know that closet, cupboard, drawer, garage, or storage unit full of crap you don’t use or those piles building up in the corner of the room? That clutter is an anchor. Even if something is tucked away, out of sight, it’s still in your energetic field, weighing you down. It can be altering, draining, or blocking your energy which then leads to imbalances on multiple levels. Those piles, boxes, or bins full of stuff are like globs of plaque clogging up the arteries in your body, restricting blood flow, or like extra fat around your waist, making you feel heavy, tired, and slow. The more stuff you have, the more weight you carry, and the bigger the blockages in your life become. Like managing a disease, you lose a bit of your energy and your freedom trying to manage your belongings.

Whether you realize it or not, clutter affects you mentally and emotionally, impacting your mood, thoughts, habits, beliefs, and actions. It can create depression, anxiety, frustration, irritability, decreased focus and concentration, difficulty making decisions, increased procrastination, and lowered motivation. It can suck the life and the joy out of you on a subconscious level so that you are unable to identify the source of your discontent. You just feel “off” or unlike yourself.

So, if you feel stuck in one or more areas of your life, consider circulating your energy by doing a deep clean of your home from top to bottom, especially if you have been holding onto things that represent painful memories, outdated habits, and beliefs, or old ways of living. Go through those cupboards, cabinets, drawers, closets, bins, boxes, and garages. Leave no stone unturned. Know what you have and how it affects you. If you get a bad feeling when you look at something, don’t keep it. Don’t throw it back in the box just so that you don’t have to face it in that moment. Get rid of anything that no longer serves you no matter how long you’ve had it, who gave it to you, or how much history you have with it. If you don’t love it and use it, it’s time to get it out of your field.

Don’t be afraid to donate, throw away, or gift things that you no longer want, need, or use, especially if they trigger you when you look at them. Clearing out the old leaves room for the new. You might feel lighter, freer, cleaner, clearer, happier, and healthier as a result of clearing out your clutter.


Bridges are the road/link from one place to another. If you find yourself constantly going back to old thoughts, habits, beliefs, events, circumstances, and relationships that no longer serve your highest healing good every time you look at a particular object, there may be a couple of things going on. One is an imprint in your luminous energy field (light body/aura) that is like a scratch on a CD, causing you to skip and repeat. Another may be that you are holding onto things that keep you reminiscing about the past. This could be pictures, jewelry, letters, or some other keepsakes someone gave you that make it hard to move forward. You might think about them every time you see that thing, which could trigger feelings of grief, loss, anger, resentment, or longing. You might miss that person, creating a feeling of longing and or euphoric recall that might not even be accurate. You may think you want someone back, even if they weren’t good to you. You might start to focus on the would haves, should haves, or could haves and wish you had said and done something differently. Ruminating on the past just embeds it deeper into your mind, heart, body, and soul.

If you find yourself unable to let go and move on, burn the bridges to the past by getting rid of the constant reminders of what was, what might have been, or what will never be. Some people are dramatic about their disposal, choosing to toss gifts and letters from ex-lovers into a bonfire. Some bury them. Others donate to second-hand stores, dump them in the trash, or return them to the sender. Whatever your method, make it clean. Not back doors and no regrets. Don’t go calling up that narcissist and asking for a second chance or going down a spiral of anger, fear, doubt, guilt, or shame because some object triggers PTSD. It’s not worth it. Let it go.


We all know what energy cords are. They are those energetic lines between us and someone else that trigger certain emotions and drain our energy. A lot of people will go for a healing session that includes “cord cutting” and wonder why the darn things keep growing back. In some cases, cutting cords is much like pulling out a dandelion improperly, breaking off the stem, and leaving that ever-prolific root behind. The darn things just grow back. So, you need to do more than cut cords. You have to dig them out by the roots.

However, we often regrow and reinforce those unhealthy pathways with other people because we own something they gave us in the form of a gift, payment, obligation, etc. . . This is the moment where someone usually gasps and thinks of something they own that triggers them every time they see it. . . . Then there is the person whose eye is twitching and wondering if the gift THEY gave an ex-lover is keeping themselves on the hook because they think of them at random moments even if they don’t want to.

No matter which category you fit in, don’t freak out. If you have something someone else gave you, and can transmute the energy, that’s great. If not, get rid of it if possible. If you can’t get rid of it, cleanse it and bless it or have someone else do it. If YOU gave something to someone ELSE, retract your essence from that object through visualization and prayer.


Some shamanic cultures or other spiritual traditions believe in sorcery and curses. An object can have some sort of spell cast on it that may negatively affect . . . or even transfer to . . . the receiver. In some cases, such spelled objects may have a suffering being (spirit/ghost) bound to it, in order to fuel that spell indefinitely unless the being is released. This is extreme, but it can happen. I’ve been known to pick up objects in metaphysical stores, witches’ markets, or shamanic suppliers only to have something invisible grab me by the throat, or the heart or cause stabbing pain in some other area of my body, letting me know that a spirit has been bound to it for one purpose or another. It could be a curse or it could be an effigy, an object of power, that helped that particular healer, but it is toxic to anyone else.

Many cultures don’t believe in curses or sorcery. They see energy as energy. Some have high vibrations and others have lower or denser vibrations. In this case, there is no positive or negative, good or bad. It’s all divine will. Whatever you believe, harmful energy can be imprinted into an object either intentionally or unintentionally, so if it is giving off bad vibes, don’t keep it under your bed, in your closet, or anywhere else for that matter. Just get rid of it. You may need to give it a good cleanse, smudge, or blessing first. If you don’t know how to do it, then take it to someone who does.


Some people are strong enough and gifted enough to journey or astral travel from one place to another just by holding or owning the object someone else gave them. You might see them in dream time or have some form of psychic intuition about what they are doing during the day. In extreme cases, people have found themselves next to . . . or INSIDE of . . . the person they are linked to while they are doing something. Trust me when I say that you don’t want to wake up out of a dead sleep inside the body of someone else, especially while they are doing something that you do not want to see, much less experience. In cases like this, you definitely need to close that energetic door or cut that cord. It’s not healthy. In fact, it can be quite traumatic.

This happened to me on numerous occasions when an ex-boyfriend was having sex with someone else. It’s actually how I found out that he was cheating on me. Not only was I inside of him, but I would then end up inside the other women. Flip-flopping back and forth between the two . . . thinking their thoughts, experiencing their emotions, and sharing their interactions from both sides of the fence . . . was alarming, disorienting, and utterly devastating. We (my ex and I) weren’t even in the same country. We’d had a long-distance relationship and lived in different time zones, but somehow I would wake up in the middle of the night looking at some woman in a bar through his eyes. I would think and feel everything as if I was him, but I also had my own thoughts, emotions, and reactions. So, it wasn’t like I had BECOME him. It was more like I had unintentionally become a ghost inside his skin. Then, somehow, my consciousness would jump from his body to the body of the woman he was with at the time and I would see my ex through HER eyes. I would know what SHE was thinking, feeling, saying, and doing as well. It still boggles my mind.

The link between my ex and myself was broken not only by getting rid of the objects he gave me but also through my spirit guide who severed all connections between us. It took an hour and it sounded like he was my lawyer listing all of my ex’s crimes in front of some spirit counsel. Every time he would rattle off some offense and how all connections between us must be severed, the counsel would say “So be, so it is, it is done.” The second the bond snapped, my ex texted me from the other side of the world and asked “What did you just do?!! I felt our bond break.” He knew about that bond and actually used it many times to psychically attack me. Once the bond was broken, he could no longer affect me at all.

Now, some people intentionally choose to hop from body to body or astral travel from place to place by deliberately tapping into someone with or without the use of an object, but if you don’t have someone’s permission, that is trespassing. Psychic spying or forcing your own will onto someone else is beyond rude. It’s against Universal Law. There are energetic (karmic) consequences. For the UNINTENTIONAL “traveler”, just do yourself a favor and remove any toxic portals from your possession. You may love the heck out of that person, but if you end up in situations that bring you pain, anger, grief, resentment, or suffering, it’s not for the highest good. If someone ELSE is trespassing against YOU, that is also not of your highest good.


In a world where our surroundings reflect our inner states, the decision to free our lives from the burden of unwanted or unused items emerges as a powerful act of self-care and liberation. Beyond the mere act of decluttering, this practice embodies a profound shift towards a more intentional and mindful existence. By parting ways with belongings that no longer serve a purpose or bring joy, we make space for clarity, creativity, and a renewed sense of purpose. As we release the physical weight of excess, we also release mental and emotional ties to the past, inviting in a sense of freedom that extends far beyond our immediate environment. The journey to rid ourselves of the unnecessary is a journey towards self-discovery, growth, and the rediscovery of the beauty that lies in simplicity. Through this transformative process, we gain the invaluable opportunity to craft spaces that nurture our well-being and inspire our aspirations, fostering a life imbued with both substance and meaning.

Ashley Brothers - Institute of Conscious Evolution LLC, Bend OR

Author of A Living Prayer Blog, public speaker, holistic practitioner, and teacher of energy medicine, shamanic healing, and psychic channeling


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